My daughter had her first real sleepover on Wednesday night.Her friend Haley from kindergarten called on Tuesday and invited her to spend the night and then go to the waterpark with her family on Thursday afternoon. They have not seen each other since school let out in the spring. (remember how long those summers used to be???)
So on Wednesday, when it was nearly time to leave, I asked her, "You aren't nervous, are you?" and she looked at me like I was insane and said, "WHY would I be nervous?? I know Haley!" and I said, "Well, I know, but you will be staying at a house that you have never been to before. I just don't want you to be nervous or scared. If you get scared, you know our phone number, so you can call me."
She said, "Mom. I am not going to be nervous. See, I am kind of like Kuncle. I like adventures and going new places. I don't get scared about things like that."
Kunkle is my brother. Nathan recently sold all of his belongings and left in a pickup truck from Fayetteville, Arkansas to Tampa, Florida to try to find a job and live on the beach and drink Corona's all day. Elizabeth thinks he is a modern day Indiana Jones.
Obviously, that puts me into the "not-adventurous" category.
Well, it rained all day yesterday, so they didn't get to go to the waterpark, so Haley's mom took them to the movie instead. I picked her up on the way home from work yesterday, and she and Haley both were begging for one more night together. We promised that we would do it again soon.
We get in the car, and she starts telling me all the things that they did. Haley's mom did this, and then Haley's mom did that, and Haley's mom is building a rocket ship, and she makes everything from scratch, and her house is clean all the time, and she never yells and she plays Hilary Duff CD's in the car without complaint, and and and and.
If that wasn't enough to make me feel like a complete failure as a parent, THEN she says, "I wish Haley was my sister and you were in the family, too."
I asked her, "What does that mean? How am I going to be in the family??" Thinking she is going to want two moms living in the same house.... ummm, no.
"I would like for Haley to be my sister, and Haley's mom to be my mom, and maybe you could be my aunt."
ouch.
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((((Hugs))))Nattie.
I don't think she really meant it the way it sounded.
Remember when you were out of town and she was dying to have you back before you even left? That's the way she really feels about you. She adores you.
ouch! Those darn daughters, they know just how to get us. Tonya is right, she adores you.
Who does that other mom think she is?? We all know she yells and isn't that much fun when there aren't other kids around!! Sheesh.
I'll just bet Haley's mom would never let her have tent and movie night in the livingroom.
Ouch, nonetheless.
Wow...that must have been so hard to hear! If it's any consolation, she'd be happy there for about a day or two and then she would want to come home to her mommy...the grass is always greener...Believe me, Nat, she worships the ground you walk on. I would just agree with her for now and know in your secret heart that she loves you more than anything or anyone.
There is just no one that could ever begin to take a mother's place, not even another mother. The relationship can certainly be rocky and full of stumbling blocks. She loves you with a fierceness she's not even aware of yet.
Anyone can be supermom for a day.
Awwww (((hugs!)))
I think it was more like she'd want to hang out with you and her mom be all of your moms! :)
Ooooh, that was cold! Your brother sounds like a fun guy. LOL
Ahhhhhh...they're just so full of tact at this age, so easy on our hearts and minds...the words that come out are spontaneous and never mean the same thing to them as they do to us. I can't count the number of times Beaner's words broke my heart or the puzzled looks she gave me when I told her so.
You're an awesome mommy, and the road runs both ways...my friends always thought my house/parents/toys were cooler than theirs and vice versa...betcha Haley will wish you were her mom after you host a sleepover!!
For the record, there will be no Hillary Hailey Hildy or any other Duff music in my car so E wouldn't fine me too cool either. Congrats to E, she gets an "A" in advanced guilt tripping. Maybe she'll outgrow it before her teen years and then you can all laugh at us as we suffer ;)
Oh, Nat.
It's sometimes hard to remember how young she really is. She's been swept away by the whirlwind weekend.
She loves you more than life.
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